Trust is one hard thing that
isn’t easily given away. On like take-away, trust is hard to give and hard to
earn. Everybody at a point in our life time has trusted. Even the ones who find
it hard to trust [as a result of various deceptions] have learned how to trust.
The
questions to ask are:
1.
Can we trust everybody?
2.
Is it right to trust people?
3.
Lastly, who can I trust?
These questions are what trouble
a lot of us, and we find it hard to explain.
Let us look at the questions. But
first, what is trust?
TRUST: meaning,
your total reliance on someone. That is, your firm belief in someone’s ability
and reliability. This means a trusted person is that person you firmly believe
in on a particular matter or issue. That person you have faith in his/her
able-ness and ability. Most of us know this but few have fully comprehended
this. The more we find it hard to grasp, the more harm we receive from it.
What most people don’t know is
that the quality of trust in every relationship differs and also determines the
strength of the relationship. Trust can harm the one who give it, and can be
mis-use by the one who earn it. Most people failed to love because of there
past events. However, we must trust [one way or the other]. Some trust there
parent, friends, partner, et cetera. Where trust becomes good is when we have
perfect persons signing an agreement of trust. The truth is, we aren’t perfect
[when it comes to human relation], so don’t expect a perfect trusted
relationship. The bad side of trust is deception. Deception is an enemy of
trust; and it is one things that destroy trust and end-up stabbing people who
have trusted on there back. The wound of this truce called deception takes a
period to heal.
CAN
WE TRUST EVERYBODY?
May be not all but some. As I
have said earlier, you can’t do without trusting at least one person. It
something that is part of us, that God planted into us. Humans are imperfect. And what
you see from imperfect people is imperfection. Therefore, it’s not
advisable to trust all friends. However, it does not mean we should believe
everybody we meet can’t be trusted. Don’t see people as an enemy or untrustworthy;
rather, see them as imperfect beings who need love to be brought into balance.
IS
IT RIGHT TO TRUST PEOPLE?
My answer is: Why not? We need to
put it at the back of our minds that trust brings loyalty. The evilness
parading different generations of mankind have made it hard to trust. Does that
make it wrong for us to trust people? Capital NO! If you want love, you give it
first; likewise if you want people to trust you, you must trust them first. I
know it’s hard; it’s the same way we learn to love our enemies. Before you are
trusted you must stand in the position of a trustworthy person and must look beyond
the faulty parts of the other person.
WHO
CAN I TRUST?
First and foremost, trust God.
Secondly, don’t trust humans so much, remember they are imperfect; so that when
they fail you, your expectations will not be caught short. Don’t be confused,
this is what I mean: Don’t over-rely on people, they will fail
you; rely on God Only!
The reason most people are hurt
is because they trust too much, or I should say they over expect/ rely on
others for the solution to there problems or challenges in life. It is right to
trust but, don’t over-rely on them [this mean expect the good and bad in every
situation], that is trust.
THE
MYSTERY OF TRUST
How do you earn people’s trust? It
is easy to say but hard to convince a person to trust you. It’s a hard game in
which all odds must be defeated. If you truly love someone you have to prove
it, likewise if you truly want someone’s trust, you have to prove it. The mystery
about trust is that the one you believe to be an enemy may end up becoming your
best friend (although not always), and as such, you end-up trusting such
person. An enemy becomes a best friend because his/her weakness and strength is
well noted by you. As an adage say: ‘The
devil you know is better than the angel you just met’ this means, before
you trust, please and please, try to know the good and bad part of such person
[may be not all but most].
TRUSTING
PEOPLE
The quality of your trust must be
base on ‘how much you know about the
person.’ If you guys just met, trust a bit. Meanwhile, on the long run,
trust bit-by-bit, until you fully know and understand the person inside-out. Remember;
don’t trust too much, Humans are a group of imperfect beings. Only God can be
rely upon, because He is the only perfect one.
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